Friday, October 7, 2016

#InfertilityNotATaboo - Reveal rather than conceal

I trudged up to the staircase.  Those distressed eyes belied my burly appearance. The left palm was clasped to the railings while the right thumb and index finger tip-tapped that black pilot pen’s cap. I was lost in a whirlwind of thoughts, thoughts that played havoc with my mind.
“Dude, guess what? Nitin Sir’s wife is finally pregnant. The loser has finally been able to achieve the right size and quantity”
“Well, I am afraid that’s not the truth brother. Our earlier assumptions about him being an impotent, good for nothing creature still stands true.”
“Nonsense, how else would his wife bear a baby?”
“I overheard, it’s a bloody test tube baby”
“What the hell are you talking about? I thought test tubes are confined to our chemistry labs isn’t it? How one earth could they produce babies?”
“Dumbass, there’s a technique called ICSI (a form of IVF) via which sperms are injected into the egg. Even I am not aware of the technicalities but all I know is that men like these are a disgrace to our society. Such techniques act as a shield to their sexual incompetency and help them to be accepted in the society. I feel if they can’t satisfy their wife in bed, they have no right to be treated as men. It’s a clear insult to the manhood, it’s better that Nitin castrates himself if he has such an ineffective tool.”

Saying this, Rishabh and Ramit exchanged a hi-five and cackled with an abominating laughter. I gaped at them through the window pane in horror, without getting noticed. My feet remained planted on the ground, as if I was leg cuffed. I was immobile, the melancholy had gripped me firmly upon hearing the version of my students. I felt choked, lifeless and cursed myself. I was a sinner and my wife bore the brunt of my shortcoming. I don’t deserve to exist isn’t it?
Even after three years, those words continue to haunt me. They remain successful in turning my wounds green time and again.


But suddenly, those surreal words came rushing to my mind and infused the much needed oxygen in me.
“Nitin, you need not curse yourself. It’s not your problem, it is “our” problem. I am proud to be married to someone like you who had the audacity to accept it before the world. We live in a society marred by orthodox beliefs, where the only proof to manhood is how long can you last in bed and not by how respectful, lovable and honest you are to your partner. Humiliation is not when you openly discuss about your infertility, it is actually' when an egoistic male tries to conceal his problem to deliberately pass on the “disgrace” to his partner. The entire family won’t give a second thought before sniffing at the woman. Because as per the universal law, it’s always a woman’s fault. But what you have done today, is path breaking. By being upfront, Nitin you have given me the opportunity to shoulder this responsibility with you and I can never be more thankful to you ever, you are my man.”
Her words yet again helped me to rise from the ashes. In the euphoria, I didn’t realise I had crossed the staircase and reached my apartment. The calendar outside displayed the date as 8th October, 2016.
Glancing at it, I proudly announced to myself “My Saira has turned two today.” 
Flashing a confident smile, I entered my house. A cheerful Saira came running up to me and clutched my arms, lovingly pulling me to the dinner table.

“Happy birthday angel,” I exclaimed.

This blog is to #SpreadAwareness about Infertility through Infertility Dost, India’s first website that facilitates couples to brave infertility with support and knowledge. You can find other links  on Write Tribe

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

Inseparable



A fragment of dew you are, crawling your way to my soul
I am a palm leaf, that one ounce of affection being my ultimate goal

You are a shooting star, matching dreams with reality for all
I am that cursed, loathed moon, helpless when i see you fall

Though miles apart we are destined to be
Reality confesses that it's hard to not put your name in the same frame as me

Monday, July 27, 2015

The Day She Cried ...



THE DAY SHE CRIED….

A day spanning darkness under a fragile shield of shiny light
The clouds erupted so did she, but none cared for her plight
A grief stricken heart and a pair of flushed moist cheeks
Silently expressed pain but my resentful words were at a peak

And my world turned on its head when her agony came to my sight

Alas I thought our fable’s making is in process
Where smiles would be the heart owner, sorrows will be room less
But today my sweetheart angel broke, I watched and she wept
This evening, off the ground, it was not only the leaves that got swept
Kneeling down, my love is pure and infinite, I must confess

It was the day she cried, miserably though yes I did fail
But the future embarks on a promise that this again won’t prevail
Love, compassion, happiness and care
She deserves each of those, not just singular, each at least in a pair
In the ocean of obstacles, that’s how our love boat shall sail

Baby, in the final walk of life when we turn to see our past
I promise you innumerable magical moments, forever which would last
With an endearing smile you will then hold my hand
And show me our names etched in a heart of sand
Our togetherness forever shall be unsurpassed.

Friday, January 23, 2015

Opening Lines



We may have been enemies before but...today your cannon is not yearning for the gunpowder. The flow of red which was very prominent once, is now covered with a thick shield of white. The scars on our walls testify the animosity that just went by. True we have been enemies before, ripping and beheading each other and going against our conscience. But unfortunately, it all began by the orders of those, who never really had a conscience.



Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Goa - Where the sun sets but never the fun !



GOA TRIP - As I see it...

After innumerable group discussions on the location, budget and not to forget the “fun” quotient, we finally zeroed in on Goa to be our offsite destination. Saurabh’s herculean effort to convince the team for Jim Corbett almost proved futile but the high spirited guy he is, he more than made amends in Goa with his wit, intellect and humour (this is not to please him but actually a fact). So we set ourselves for the journey on 9th Jan, clad in half tees to embrace the cosy weather at Goa and half sweaters to tackle the wicked winters here. Initially, Yuvaraj seemed to be in his own groove, earphones plugged in his ears while taking a walk near the check in counter and maintaining safe distance from the team on the flight. But Saurabh grabbed the 5 rater opportunity and sat besides him during the flight. His witty talks, re christening some folks in the team (Bittoo Boss for instance) went on for the entire journey and did keep us hooked, can’t say the same about Yuvaraj though. It was hard to make out if he was enjoying sitting alone or with SK :)

We landed in Goa at around 5 pm and prayed silently within, “Goa, you better be good to us.” Seating ourselves in the tempo traveller, we took no time in laying our hands upon few beer crates and “Chakna”. Poor non-drinkers had to remain content with a Pepsi and Coke but as they say, such is life’s miseries. Just then, I got a call which blew me apart. Yet another drama on an offsite for me, this time I forgot my laptop bag at the Airport. Let me be honest, this was more gruesome than missing the bus on an unknown highway during the last trip. Luckily, my bag went into safe hands and the guy was helpful enough to drop it in our hotel. My heart was in my mouth all this while, but when I got my laptop back, I was all smiles again. Coming back to the trip, HR team was already getting into the mood. The body part guess game with weird hints and some raised eyebrows was a testimony of the things lined up for us for the next three days, courtesy Saurabh. Soon we checked in at the Nazri Resort near Baga Beach which was a magnificent property, surrounded by lush green fields and seemed to be an ideal place for discerning travelers like us who wanted nothing more than being in the lap of fun, excitement and contentment for the next few days. The resort was conveniently located in the heart of North Goa and a few minutes’ drive would take us to some of the most stunning places known. We decided to head off to St. Anthony’s for dinner and special thanks to Chetan and Arun for reserving the seats for the rest of the lazy bums. Poor guys had to be out there as early as 8 pm to block the seats because as per Chetan, “Waha late jaate to seat milna mushkil hi nahi, na mumkin tha..8 baje se baithe hain inke liye tab bhi koi kadar nahi”.

The table was set and apart from the overflowing and ubiquitous Daaru(Beer in plenty, Whisky lovers were few but Chandan, WINE wala asli hero was only you) we ordered almost the entire non vegetarian that they could offer and some vegetarian for the “pure veg” folks. Post wrapping up the table, one could see Gupi and Arun placing zillions of orders at the bar counter while Chetan decided to shake a leg at the DJ with a beer bottle in his hand which did offend the bouncer. Risking life at the dance floor when a bouncer is ready to pounce on you was never a good idea and Chetan made a note of that quickly. Nitya wanted to be the singing sensation and was adamant about “It’s my life” at the Karaoke. She even declined Yuvaraj’s offer to sing for all of us in the hotel since the mike and the crowd cheering around would be a dream come true for her and not just the HR team. “Sir, mike pe gaa ke feel aa jati hai” was what she had to say to Yuvaraj. On the other hand, Richa was high owing to the excess chocolate in her Oreo shake and we made her sit and relax, till she was okay. We all began to take the walk back to the hotel around 2 am when we later found that some of them were missing. Yuvaraj decided to have some fun in his own way and conceived the plan of “Richa’s disappearance”. Nitya used her cry baby tone on the phone to perfection and informed the group on the beach about Richa’s disappearance. SK, RB,CS,GG,AS,GP came rushing back to the hotel, eyes red, faces in horror and mouth big wide open. The high-ness was gone in thin air as Yuvaraj ripped them apart in no time. He ordered them to look for her in town and they all rushed back to the Goa streets to hunt for Richa like a headless chicken. In the meanwhile, Richa was taking a nap in YS’s room comfortably but forgot to switch off her phone. Finally, after the futile efforts, we all gathered at Yuvaraj’s room and disclosed the bluff immediately. They all were shell shocked, to say the least, what happened next, unfortunately needs to be censored. :)

The next day, the sun shone bright and it was a pleasant day. After a lazy morning and an unplanned day ahead, we set ourselves for lunch at Brittos. After an agonizing wait, all came out in true Goa colours. Guys were in comfortable tees and shorts/bermudas (barring Arjun who wore full clothes to protect himself from tanning that’s what I can guess) while girls rocked with skirts, shorts, tees and displayed flamboyance and carried it off elegantly. Post filling ourselves, it was time for some relaxation so we headed to Arambol beach. Recommendation came from none other than SK and once we reached there, really none of us complained. SK had no qualms in referring to it as the nude beach while asking for directions. Yuvaraj drove us to the place in the jeep with full vigour and style, flaunting the new tattoo on his biceps. It was a gorgeous beach and the sun set view was exquisite. Guys relaxed with their tees off and some preferred massage while the rest lied down with a can of beer, enjoying the breathtaking view. Soon, after satisfying our palate, we headed back to Panvel. Yes Panvel, courtesy Gupi’s reverse pointed GPS and some more technical errors, we found ourselves lost on the Mumbai Goa highway. Eventually, we managed to reach the hotel in another hour or so. That night, girls were enjoying themselves at the flea market and then Club Cabana while the guys decided to stay back after the long drive and have some more drink sessions along the pool side. With some lip smacking non veg and countless beer bottles, we ended up in SK’s room to have the best night of the trip. It was a sort of Nach Baliye but with couples performing on weird songs. TC and CC kicked off the event with flair. Apparently, it was hard for TC to match CC’s steps so she taught him her own and the performance went really well. There were decent performances from Arun/Tanisha, Poorva/Chetan, Arjun/Amrita (disqualified) but the stellar performance was from SK and Richa. This performance had masala, enthusiasm, flavor, rhythm and some what dance too. The last, toughest but least acknowledged performance were from me, GP and Jaggi who danced at “Lukka Chuppi”, clearly the trickiest song but we managed well somehow, though I still complain of our group pic not being taken :(

Yuvaraj bid adieu that night or rather morning but we set ourselves for yet another, but unfortunately our last day of the trip. After a filling and amazing lunch, we headed to Fort Chapora (Dil Chahta Hai) which came across as an iconic location. The rocky surface, picturesque view and the sun set, was extremely mesmerizing and was a writer’s delight. We patiently waited for the sun to set and when it did, it brought smiles and contentment all around. That night, was HR team’s party night, no holds barred. The venue was none other than LPK (Love Passion Karma). TC taught us a simple way to remember the name, “we all saw PK movie, just prefix L to it and its LPK.” It was the most happening place of Goa that night and we added much more value to it. The DJ floor was brimming with dancers and romantic couples and the music got all of us going too. We couldn’t stop but shake a leg at almost every tune the DJ played. Alongside, we did make full use of the free “drink till you drop” alcohol service and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves.

Sadly, the next day arrived pretty soon and we were all packing our bags to check out on time. We checked in at the airport and later, boarded our flights quietly. The enthusiasm and chirpy team clearly looked tired and disappointed because it was an end, end to one of the most fascinating trips ever. Via this blog, I wish to thank you all for being a part of not just this trip, but memories galore which will be etched in our minds and hearts forever !!






Friday, December 6, 2013

THE UNSAID




The advent of an enlightening dawn, a picturesque misty morning’s grace
Profound darkness and grief, can it still happen to embrace?

The incapable dried up ink becomes a testimony
Of an age old laconic fable left incomplete, unsaid.

Resurrection season of spring accompanies an unparalleled glee
Yet it cannot write off the possibility of autumn’s melancholy.

The untimely incessant rainfall which can shield the drops of cries
Might actually be depicting the concern of the perturbed skies.

Dry withered leaves part ways to bid adieu to the ever supportive branch
To begin a new journey with the disoriented wind en route to a misfortune avalanche

The flow of alluring dreams in plenty
Is a misleading facade or a gesture towards an upcoming reality?

Such was an age old short and sweet fable
Left abandoned, incomplete, unheard and unsaid.

Friday, April 19, 2013

DIVINE LOVE



A part of those eccentric caricatures amidst the blue skies
or you're the creator of this magnificent sight.

Embracing you as my religion, my highest form of prayer
brought me far ahead of this material world and I didn't care.

Our proximities were as subtle and alluring as a butterfly
which could just be felt but if touched, it fades away the harder you try.

Enlightened the world being a wax candle
yet burnt myself like a pack of dry leaves facing the disdainful sun.

Your larger than life shadows, were near yet so far
Even with those eluding heavens, it was at par.

Being lost and dejected, yet braving the enormity
Your gloomy eyes have been long waiting to erupt all its salinity.